Comments on: My Biggest Fan

By: Molly_Hoyne

Molly_Hoyne — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 18:36:33 +0000

Can't wait to hear where you're headed!!

By: Heather Rae

Heather Rae — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 00:28:43 +0000

Kim, I love your suggestion. I’ve actually thought of volunteering for a shorter amount of time (like 3-4 months) or teaching English somewhere that I’m able to do a shorter time span. I think I’ll look into that internship you mentioned – sounds pretty awesome.

Molly, Yep – I am planning on heading out for a bit! Yay! My first trip will be a little shorter (about a month) so I can get my feet wet. I’m so looking forward to planning this one — and then going, of course!!

By: Molly Hoyne

Molly Hoyne — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 16:11:34 +0000

“I think a relationship should look exactly how the couple involved wants it to look. Make up your own rules. Do what works for you.”

Heather, I love this bit! Because I agree- same thing with life- make up your own rules! Do what works for you! The best thing you can do for all those around you is to be totally and passionately alive.

And as you said, it’s not always easy. It requires faith and trust and communication. Sounds like you and your man have that.

How wonderful.

I think I’m with Kim though (and I think you’re already planning on going for a while, eh?)… if you have the adventure bug– GO.

“We’ll most regret the things we didn’t do, not the things we did.” oxoxo

By: Kim

Kim — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 13:51:44 +0000

Heather – I really enjoyed your post also. I’d be lying if I said I can relate to it (I’m single) but I really respect how honest you are about where you are in life and what you’re feeling. You should count yourself really lucky that you have someone so supportive at your side, that’s hard to find. And I’m a tad biased but I think if you really want to go away for a bit and travel than you should! You shouldn’t stay home just because it “wouldn’t be fair to him”. There are programs you can do that are short term – a few months – so long enough that you can get that experience out of your system, but short enough that you’re not leaving loved ones for too long. I’m personally doing a 4.5 mth internship teaching english in China this August through i-to-i:http://www.i-to-i.com/teaching-internships/china/ I didn’t want to go for a full year myself but I still wanted an adventure so I felt that this was a great compromise. So you CAN have your cake and eat it too. I know it would still be hard to be apart for that length of time, but it’s really not that long in the grand scheme of things. And if your fiance is as supportive as he sounds, and you’ve been together as long as you have, chances are 4.5 months isn’t going to change your relationship all that much. But one thing’s for sure, it would scratch that massive itch for you! *this is just my opinion though, everyone has to do what’s best for them*

By: Heather Rae

Heather Rae — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 23:58:10 +0000

Thanks so much for the support – you ladies are awesome!!

@Julie – I so much agree. Kudos to you for finding ways to follow your own dreams while helping your BF follow his! That balance is sometimes hard to find but so worth it!

@Katie – I’m so excited for you! It’s sometimes so tough to make the big decisions, but I find if I’m following my passion, I’m almost always making the right choice for me. Can’t wait to hear more about it!

@April – thank you! It’s not always easy, but I’ve found that it’s SO worth the effort to nurture my own dreams while supporting his too.

By: April

April — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 22:35:11 +0000

I adore this post. I love the honesty and making your own path and your own way. I really feel like with the kind of honesty and understanding you both have, you will find that cake and eat it perfect situation. And THANK YOU for not stopping your own life when you incorporate a great man into it!! So many women lose what attracted the man to them in the first place…YOU.

By: Katie

Katie — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 19:50:46 +0000

Today I was doubting my decision to move across the country. But this: “If I were single, the first thing I would do to kick off this quest for fulfillment would be to get out a map, pick a place and go.” just reminded me of why I’m doing it.

THANK YOU!

By: Julie

Julie — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 17:28:12 +0000

Hey Heather,
I can so much relate to your post.
My BF and I are both super-ambitious and have plenty of projects and dreams for our future. Unconventional ones for most.

It’s not always to pursue our own dreams while at the same time going in the same direction.

For exemple. My BF is an Art teacher who doesn’t want to teach forever. I work in a cubicle that I plan to leave (for good). In our spare time, I am also a blogger who plans on launching her own business, he is a musician who plans on living on his music. Big Projects, lot of energy and PLENTY of risk. It’s tempting for me to wish he would keep his steady job while I take a risk and vice-versa, but we both want the other one to be happy too.

As for distance. I’ve spent a couple of years flipping everytime he mentionned going on tour with the band. I couldn’t keep myself from panicking at the idea of staying in our loathed routine while he’s living the dream… So now, I help with the band and I build an online business on the side, so in case his dream come true, I can follow him and still live mine too.

Thanks for sharing your story with honesty. PS: I should definitely adopt and follow your #2 rule…