Comments on: Following My Heart, or the Benefits of Being Selfish http://www.stratejoy.com/2010/03/the-benefits-of-being-selfish/ Helping gutsy girls conquer their Quarterlife Crisis through workshops, online courses, coaching and motivational speaking. Fri, 10 Feb 2012 20:20:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Kim http://www.stratejoy.com/2010/03/the-benefits-of-being-selfish/comment-page-1/#comment-3706 Kim Thu, 11 Mar 2010 17:47:52 +0000 http://www.stratejoy.com/?p=3402#comment-3706 Yup it's far - this country is pretty big lol. I'm excited though! I totally relate to your post from today as well about being excited to move more than sad. That means it's a good decision! And a good decision for you, not for other people, and that's the best thing! I've been getting some slack from my family, just along the lines of "it's not going to be easy", "it will take a long time to make friends", yada yada yada. I know they are just concerned but they can't really understand the place I'm in right now and how I feel. They can't understand that I NEED this move, even if it isn't going to be easy. The important thing though is that I think it's a good thing for me and that's what I need to think about. Anyway, I'll DEFINITELY keep in touch with you, and you do the same! My friends are great but they can't really relate to where I'm at either, so it's great for me to find someone to chat to about this stuff too! Florida sounds awesome! Good luck with your move and talk soon :) Yup it's far – this country is pretty big lol. I'm excited though! I totally relate to your post from today as well about being excited to move more than sad. That means it's a good decision! And a good decision for you, not for other people, and that's the best thing! I've been getting some slack from my family, just along the lines of "it's not going to be easy", "it will take a long time to make friends", yada yada yada. I know they are just concerned but they can't really understand the place I'm in right now and how I feel. They can't understand that I NEED this move, even if it isn't going to be easy. The important thing though is that I think it's a good thing for me and that's what I need to think about.

Anyway, I'll DEFINITELY keep in touch with you, and you do the same! My friends are great but they can't really relate to where I'm at either, so it's great for me to find someone to chat to about this stuff too! Florida sounds awesome! Good luck with your move and talk soon :)

]]> By: Katie http://www.stratejoy.com/2010/03/the-benefits-of-being-selfish/comment-page-1/#comment-3682 Katie Mon, 08 Mar 2010 02:39:30 +0000 http://www.stratejoy.com/?p=3402#comment-3682 Now that's one fabulous way of looking at things. I'm definitely one to question my decisions, and the likelihood of things not working out. Is THIS why the Universe never seems to be on my side? Yes? PROBLEM SOLVED. See you in 6 months. :) Now that's one fabulous way of looking at things. I'm definitely one to question my decisions, and the likelihood of things not working out. Is THIS why the Universe never seems to be on my side? Yes?

PROBLEM SOLVED.

See you in 6 months. :)

]]> By: Molly_Hoyne http://www.stratejoy.com/2010/03/the-benefits-of-being-selfish/comment-page-1/#comment-3677 Molly_Hoyne Sun, 07 Mar 2010 18:30:01 +0000 http://www.stratejoy.com/?p=3402#comment-3677 Katie- Here's one thing I've learned about the Universe. It loves to make things happen for you, but it's taking it's cue off how you talk about it, describe it to others, think about it in your own head, etc. So let's practice... KC, "I'm coming to Seattle in 6 months! I'm going to find the perfect house/apartment that needs my awesome self as their new roomie! The job/friends/hobby I desire will be there and I can't wait to discover them." Exclamation points are optional, but I find the Universe loves exuberance... And of course all of this is going to require work and effort on your side, but you really do influence the outcomes by how you're talking about it. If you think it's going to be easy and fun, you'll make choices to help it be easy and fun. If you think it's going to be hard, you'll make choices to reflect that. Whether we are aware of it or not- we create self-fulfilling prophecies when we talk about our future! So, I can't wait until you get to Seattle in 3 or 6 months. You're going to love it and be amazed at how everything worked out in your favor! Hey Universe? Ya hear that? ;) Katie- Here's one thing I've learned about the Universe. It loves to make things happen for you, but it's taking it's cue off how you talk about it, describe it to others, think about it in your own head, etc.

So let's practice…

KC, "I'm coming to Seattle in 6 months! I'm going to find the perfect house/apartment that needs my awesome self as their new roomie! The job/friends/hobby I desire will be there and I can't wait to discover them."

Exclamation points are optional, but I find the Universe loves exuberance… And of course all of this is going to require work and effort on your side, but you really do influence the outcomes by how you're talking about it. If you think it's going to be easy and fun, you'll make choices to help it be easy and fun. If you think it's going to be hard, you'll make choices to reflect that.

Whether we are aware of it or not- we create self-fulfilling prophecies when we talk about our future!

So, I can't wait until you get to Seattle in 3 or 6 months. You're going to love it and be amazed at how everything worked out in your favor! Hey Universe? Ya hear that? ;)

]]> By: Katie http://www.stratejoy.com/2010/03/the-benefits-of-being-selfish/comment-page-1/#comment-3670 Katie Fri, 05 Mar 2010 23:58:20 +0000 http://www.stratejoy.com/?p=3402#comment-3670 Mallory, I've never read the Disease to Please, but I think I'm going to bounce over to Amazon and order it. It seems right up my alley. And you're in the land of Seattle? That's so awesome. I'm going to be doing a 6 month stay in Jacksonville, and if all goes as planned, coming full fledged into Seattle. My problem has been finding living quarters, so if you have any friends that need a clean, awesome, twenty something roommate, point them in my direction. Can't wait to meet up with you for some coffee, and chatter. I think we'll get along famously! And this is one thing I'm saying I'm going to do, and actually do it! :) Mallory, I've never read the Disease to Please, but I think I'm going to bounce over to Amazon and order it. It seems right up my alley.

And you're in the land of Seattle? That's so awesome. I'm going to be doing a 6 month stay in Jacksonville, and if all goes as planned, coming full fledged into Seattle. My problem has been finding living quarters, so if you have any friends that need a clean, awesome, twenty something roommate, point them in my direction.

Can't wait to meet up with you for some coffee, and chatter. I think we'll get along famously! And this is one thing I'm saying I'm going to do, and actually do it! :)

]]> By: Mallory http://www.stratejoy.com/2010/03/the-benefits-of-being-selfish/comment-page-1/#comment-3669 Mallory Fri, 05 Mar 2010 18:56:37 +0000 http://www.stratejoy.com/?p=3402#comment-3669 Hi Katie - I just wanted to say how awesome this post is! I LOVE it. I completely identify with your knack for starting things, but just not quite crossing the finish line AND especially for people pleasing tendencies. I'm actually getting the book the Disease to Please for my next read - have you ever read it? VERY best of luck on your big move! HOW exciting! I was going to say you should swing by Seattle on your way to wherever you're going, but it sounds like Seattle IS where you're going. I'll be happy to welcome you to the Emerald City when you get here if you want to meet or some help unpacking. Just a tip though, you may want to try to get out this way for the summer. It's a much nicer transition into life as a Seattlite, and there are a million festivals and concerts to go to! Hi Katie – I just wanted to say how awesome this post is! I LOVE it. I completely identify with your knack for starting things, but just not quite crossing the finish line AND especially for people pleasing tendencies. I'm actually getting the book the Disease to Please for my next read – have you ever read it?

VERY best of luck on your big move! HOW exciting! I was going to say you should swing by Seattle on your way to wherever you're going, but it sounds like Seattle IS where you're going. I'll be happy to welcome you to the Emerald City when you get here if you want to meet or some help unpacking. Just a tip though, you may want to try to get out this way for the summer. It's a much nicer transition into life as a Seattlite, and there are a million festivals and concerts to go to!

]]> By: Katie http://www.stratejoy.com/2010/03/the-benefits-of-being-selfish/comment-page-1/#comment-3665 Katie Fri, 05 Mar 2010 16:43:05 +0000 http://www.stratejoy.com/?p=3402#comment-3665 Kim - even though I'm not too familiar with Canada, Google is! That IS quite the move. Honestly, anything thats "away from home and where you're comfortable" is a pretty big move. I'll be moving from New Jersey to (possibly) Jacksonville, Florida for about 6 months, then hopefully out to Seattle to live., I am SO excited for your move as well! LOVE hearing from other people who are in the same boat as me. Can you do me a favor and keep me posted on how things are going with you, where you are with the move, etc? That would be fabulous ;) Kim – even though I'm not too familiar with Canada, Google is! That IS quite the move. Honestly, anything thats "away from home and where you're comfortable" is a pretty big move. I'll be moving from New Jersey to (possibly) Jacksonville, Florida for about 6 months, then hopefully out to Seattle to live.,

I am SO excited for your move as well! LOVE hearing from other people who are in the same boat as me. Can you do me a favor and keep me posted on how things are going with you, where you are with the move, etc? That would be fabulous ;)

]]> By: Katie http://www.stratejoy.com/2010/03/the-benefits-of-being-selfish/comment-page-1/#comment-3664 Katie Fri, 05 Mar 2010 16:40:22 +0000 http://www.stratejoy.com/?p=3402#comment-3664 Thanks, lady! It's hard to be selfish when you've lived so long putting yourself second. Learning to be first in some instances is a valuable lesson that I'm so glad to have learned. :) Thanks, lady! It's hard to be selfish when you've lived so long putting yourself second. Learning to be first in some instances is a valuable lesson that I'm so glad to have learned. :)

]]> By: Katie http://www.stratejoy.com/2010/03/the-benefits-of-being-selfish/comment-page-1/#comment-3663 Katie Fri, 05 Mar 2010 16:39:34 +0000 http://www.stratejoy.com/?p=3402#comment-3663 Thank you so very much, friend. I must admit, it's still difficult at times, and I surely doubt myself, I'm trying to stay moving in the right direction! Thank you so very much, friend. I must admit, it's still difficult at times, and I surely doubt myself, I'm trying to stay moving in the right direction!

]]> By: Jac http://www.stratejoy.com/2010/03/the-benefits-of-being-selfish/comment-page-1/#comment-3658 Jac Fri, 05 Mar 2010 02:35:04 +0000 http://www.stratejoy.com/?p=3402#comment-3658 Bravo! Bravo! Bravo!!! Enjoy your Journey :) Bravo! Bravo! Bravo!!! Enjoy your Journey :)

]]> By: Kim http://www.stratejoy.com/2010/03/the-benefits-of-being-selfish/comment-page-1/#comment-3659 Kim Thu, 04 Mar 2010 18:51:37 +0000 http://www.stratejoy.com/?p=3402#comment-3659 Katie - this post gave me goosebumps because it's like you're in my head!! I'm in the very same position and have decided to move as well (from Halifax to Vancouver - straight across Canada!) in a few months and I couldn't be happier about the decision too. Can I ask where you're moving? I agree that everyone needs to be selfish once in a while; you can't give, give, give all the time and continue putting yourself on the back-burner and expect to be happy.I'm leaving behind my home as well and many things I love, but I need this. And it sounds like you need it too, so good on you for taking the step! Good luck with it! :) Katie – this post gave me goosebumps because it's like you're in my head!! I'm in the very same position and have decided to move as well (from Halifax to Vancouver – straight across Canada!) in a few months and I couldn't be happier about the decision too. Can I ask where you're moving? I agree that everyone needs to be selfish once in a while; you can't give, give, give all the time and continue putting yourself on the back-burner and expect to be happy.I'm leaving behind my home as well and many things I love, but I need this. And it sounds like you need it too, so good on you for taking the step! Good luck with it! :)

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