Taking Time Out To Appreciate Love

posted 2nd June 2010    Written by: Heather Rae    CATEGORY: Heather Rae, Love/Relationships, Season 2

The last couple of weeks I’ve been taking it easy with the writing.  Instead, I’ve been soaking up every last minute with the fiancé.

You see, once Steven starts his residency, he’ll be working like crazy.  According to regulations, residents aren’t allowed to work more than an average of eighty hours per week over a four week period.  They could work one hundred hours one week and sixty hours the next.  Needless to say, once he starts at the hospital, he’ll be busy.

When he was in medical school, we were used to the crazy hours he put in.  Those days, I knew that I wouldn’t see him every day.  Sometimes he came home, and other times he spent the night at the hospital.  It was the usual.  But now, things are different.  Over the past few years, Steven’s been in the Army.  With the exception of when he was deployed, his work hours at home were pretty regular.  He worked forty hours a week, a normal schedule.

The reality of us not being able to spend much time together is starting to hit me. On June 13, Steven will be driving up to Seattle to start his orientation at the hospital.  I’ll be staying back in Pasadena for a few weeks, getting things packed and ready to go, and I’ll be heading up at the beginning of July.  To be honest, I’m nervous about the move (more on that another day), but for the most part, I’m nervous about what this means for our relationship.

I’m not concerned about the residency being too much or pulling us apart.  Over the seven years we’ve been together, we’ve been through a lot more difficult times.  I think I’m just going to miss being able to spend so much time with him. I’m going to miss knowing that he’ll be able to be there for me whenever I need him, at the drop of a hat.

Not that he won’t be there for me.  He absolutely will.  It’s just that I also know that when someone’s sick child is in the hospital, that child will sometimes come first.  And that’s the way it should be.  You certainly don’t want a doctor treating your kid who can’t stop thinking about the issues he’s dealing with at home.  No.  You want that doctor to be focused on your child — and only your child.

Anyhow, I’m not writing this to complain.

I guess what I’m really trying to say is that it’s easy, sometimes too easy, to get wrapped up in the every day, to forget to appreciate what you have right in front of you. It’s easy to stress about how much money is in your bank account or the problems at your job or if you’ll be able to achieve the goals you set for yourself this year.  But relationships are so much more important than any of that.

Appreciating the love you have in your life, not taking others for granted – that’s what counts.

So Steven and I are spending our days holding hands, taking long walks, laughing like kids, kissing like newlyweds and reveling in the adventure of it all.  And for the next couple of weeks, that’s exactly what I will be continuing to do.  I’m loving it!

I don’t know where life might lead me.  But I know one thing for sure – with my best friend by my side, it’s bound to be a fabulous journey.

photo credit: Shanissinha

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