Connecting and Healing

posted 5th November 2010    Written by: Alisha    CATEGORY: Alisha, Quarterlife Crisis, Season 3, What I've Learned

I’ve never had a home.  I have lived in 7 states and 14 cities.  I have lived in condos, apartments, townhomes and big suburban houses.  Yet, I have never felt like I had a home. Even now, as I settle into my third year in Chicago, it still does not feel like “home.”  So last year, what I set out to do, via the wonderful world wide web, was try to find my community.  I knew that if I could just create one, build one,  or simply find one, then maybe I would feel a little more settled–I would feel connected.

It is so easy to  get caught up in the minutea of our lives.  We allow ourselves to be so wrapped up that at times it feels as though you are the only one suffering.  Yet, that’s not true.  Through this experience with Stratejoy, I realized that although the details in each blog post are different, the themes are the same.  Ultimately, it is not My Story.  It is not Doniree’s Story.  It’s not Renee’s Story, or Lindsey’s Story, or Marian’s Story, or Nikki’s Story.  It is not Your Story.  It is Our Story.  It is the Human Story.  We are navigating through this life together.

One thing I have learned over the past few years is that the more I share my past, the more I release its power over me. I have many scars that bleed, but each time I recount a story–relive the injuries–a cut closes.  A wound heals.  I move on.  Each time I share a dream, the more vivid and attainable it becomes.  I become inspired.

While I have yet to figure out what I really want to do with my life–besides write–I know that whatever work I do must be centered around community, connection and healing.  Blogging for Molly and Stratejoy has given me that opportunity to do just that: find a community, connect and heal. When you read my words, we connect.  And as we connect with one another, I connect more with myself.  And it has helped me to heal.

(photo: free woman holding bunch of pink budded twigs by pink sherbet photography)

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9 Responses to “Connecting and Healing”

  • nikki_klecha Says:
    November 5th, 2010 at 9:02 am

    This really touched me – my eyes are full of tears. You're right, it's OUR story, it's the HUMAN story, and there's no reason for any of us to ever feel alone or misunderstood. Every time we share our pain it becomes less painful – I've definitley experienced that with SJ too. Love.

  • PeggieArvidson1 Says:
    November 5th, 2010 at 2:48 pm

    "While I have yet to figure out what I really want to do with my lifebesides writeI know that whatever work I do must be centered around community, connection and healing. "

  • Alisha Says:
    November 6th, 2010 at 11:33 am

    Glad it's been healing for you too :)

  • Lindsey Says:
    November 9th, 2010 at 2:40 pm

    Community. Connection. Healing. I want that too. And if we keep putting that out there, you're right, it's making it more vivid. More real. More inspiring. So glad to share OUR stories!

  • Jackie Says:
    November 10th, 2010 at 8:59 am

    Beautiful entry, Alisha – I always enjoying reading your posts. :)

  • Alisha Says:
    November 11th, 2010 at 12:34 pm

    Thank you, Doniree :) .

  • Alisha Says:
    November 11th, 2010 at 12:36 pm

    Yes, sharing our stories does make it more real. And it helps you feel a little more accountable Thank you for sharing your stories.

  • Alisha Says:
    November 11th, 2010 at 12:36 pm

    Thank you, Jackie. I am glad you appreciate them :)

  • Meredith Says:
    November 15th, 2010 at 4:13 pm

    Great post, Alisha. Feeling "at home" can be a lifetime's work, I sometimes think — even for people who've always lived in the same place. Your journey as you share it in your writing is so beautiful and universal.

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