Reclaiming A Life: Bold and Fearless

posted 10th February 2011    Written by: Bri    CATEGORY: Bri, Job/Career/Work, Life Lesson

WrBriJoyiting is my primary method of tackling the messy parts of life.  I’ve written about my break up from start to finish and I’ve tried to be honest and open with what worked for me.  I don’t often read through my archives, but I know other people have.  I hear of people who have been sent there because they’re going through a break up too, and that’s amazing to me.

That’s why we share our stories.  I share my story so people know they’re not alone in their struggles.  I share my story because maybe something I learned the hard way can be taught the easy way.  Just like the stories of other women inspire me to be stronger, bolder, and more fearless, maybe my story will inspire a woman fresh from a break up to keep going.

I hope so.  I’m living just one little life, but writing it down makes it possible to be bigger.

I would never describe myself as ballsy. I have a job that I like because it’s easy, not because it’s challenging, and I would never claim it’s my passion.

The big life decisions I have made have always felt too easy.  I applied to one PhD program, got in and went.  I interviewed for one job, got it and moved two weeks later.

I am incredibly grateful for it all, believe me, but it feels a whole lot like lucky breaks and less like I own my life.  I want to know I deserve this amazing life I live because of risks I took.  I want to set my life on fire and reclaim ownership of it.

I want to get every thing possible out of the next six months of writing here.  I want to share my journey of reclaiming my life and living boldly.  Here is what I am going to be aiming for:

I am so ready to share this journey with y’all.

[Note from Coach Molly:  And we're so ready to tag along for your journey, Bri!  I love the goals you've articulated for owning your life.  And I'm going to throw out an "Everyone deserves to boldly love themselves!!"  Hellz yah.  Please know that I'm here for you as you ask for what you want and all the excitement and fear that comes with it.  Stepping into your own life is a gorgeous thing.]

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18 Responses to “Reclaiming A Life: Bold and Fearless”

  • Carly Mc Says:
    February 10th, 2011 at 9:31 am

    I'm loving the Season 4 bloggers but I'm especially loving this post and what it brings to the table. While working through Stratejoy and my QLC, I never thought about the concept of owning your life and boldly loving yourself but I'm officially putting it on my Life To-Do List. As you wrote in the beginning of this post, you've inspired me to begin thinking about what it means to own my life and the goals I should think of to get there. It's nice to know someone is going through the same thing at the same time. Good luck chick!

  • Nora Says:
    February 10th, 2011 at 9:40 am

    Taking yourself out on dates? Totally an awesome idea and something we should all do more of… I hope you'll share one or two anecdotes about dates with yourself!

  • Bri - Habbala Says:
    February 10th, 2011 at 9:52 am

    Done and done. And I'll probably text you too. You know how we do.

  • Juliana Says:
    February 10th, 2011 at 10:23 am

    I totally feel you on the luck vs. owning thing… can't wait to see what you discover!

  • aftertherace Says:
    February 10th, 2011 at 10:28 am

    Great post, lady. I, too, want to start taking myself out on dates (Valentine's Revolution!) and living without a fear of rejection. Bold and Fearless FTW! :)

  • Bri - Habbala Says:
    February 10th, 2011 at 10:50 am

    Hahaha! Yes Valentines Revolution! Good reminder, I need to call the dinner place and change my reservation! I have TEN girls getting together for a "Celebrate Everything That Rocks About Our Lives" Dinner.

  • Bri - Habbala Says:
    February 10th, 2011 at 10:51 am

    Oh YOU. I just get so scaredy-cat sometimes I don't even ASK for what I want. Totally an annoying habit that is getting the boot.

  • Kahea Says:
    February 10th, 2011 at 7:19 pm

    Uh…I officially just stole all of your ideas and are taking them for my very own. ; ) I really do love this idea of living and loving yourself BOLDLY and have no doubt you'll do it. I think I'll also take it as an invitation to explore what that means for myself as well… See? You're already inspiring!

  • Danielle Says:
    February 11th, 2011 at 2:10 am

    Heck yes! I'm taking myself out for a donut RIGHT NOW. I completely understand what you wrote about not feeling like you own your life because it feels like luck just found you. I feel the EXACT same way sometimes. So the adventures I'm choosing with Kenny now feel like my own! I love you and I love your zest!

  • Alisha Says:
    February 11th, 2011 at 8:27 am

    Oh yes, I can relate to that feeling of life just happening instead of you making it happen. Love this post :)

  • amandafarough Says:
    February 11th, 2011 at 12:26 pm

    Stoked for you, lady! These goals are awesome!

  • Bri - Habbala Says:
    February 11th, 2011 at 1:35 pm

    Hahah, you can OFFICIALLY have them. Good luck with Project Love Yourself. Let me know how it goes lovely.

  • Bri - Habbala Says:
    February 11th, 2011 at 1:36 pm

    I LOVE the trip you and Kenny are taking. Totes Bold. You're amazing and inspiring girl. LOVE YOU.

  • Bri - Habbala Says:
    February 11th, 2011 at 1:36 pm

    Thank you! I think it's a pretty common feeling.

  • Bri - Habbala Says:
    February 11th, 2011 at 1:36 pm

    I mean, it's no "making a baby". But it will do :)

  • asummermoon Says:
    February 12th, 2011 at 7:25 pm

    Love it !especially the" take yourself out on dates" part. I took myself out on a date for the first time in my life when my marriage ended and let me tell you I was so proud of myself (I can't believe how nerve-wracking it was at first). I still enjoy going on dates alone even though I don't have to but I've finally come to a place where I truly enjoy my own company and it feels awesome. BTW I'm not sure what kind of addiction your mother had but there are support groups like Al-Anon… maybe you could help out there.

  • Natalie Says:
    February 13th, 2011 at 9:20 am

    These are amazing goals and I wish you all the luck to go along with your determination. Can't wait to hear more

  • erinmakesitwork Says:
    February 13th, 2011 at 12:26 pm

    I love this! Take yourself out and treat yourself wonderfully. Love yourself completely, flaws and all. Go for it. It's our life to live, but it's also ours not to live. So lets jump off the cliff of comfortable and see if we have wings. I bet we do. I'm right here with you!

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