Who are you, sister? Tell us a little about yourself.
I’m Adriane, 38 years old, living in West Seattle with the two awesomest black cats ever, Scarlett and Melanie.
I’m a Seahawks-loving, childfree by choice fiction writer and Prohibition-era enthusiast who works in community health to pay the bills and fund my love for traveling—especially to Disneyland!
Let’s do some one word answers. Ready, set, go!
Morning Drink? Cold brewed black coffee
Lusting after? Jimmy Graham (Seahawks tight end—oh yeah!)
Spirit Animal? Black cat, of course
Head Space? Pleased
Heart Space? Excited
Bloom of Choice? Daffodils
Turn-on? A nice laugh (think Tom Hiddleston)
Go-to Gemstone? Rose quartz
Celebrity Icon? J.K. Rowling
Favorite compliment? Happy
What does practicing joy mean to you?
Doing the shit that makes you happy—on purpose. Consistently taking time to do whatever lights you up inside and puts a smile on your face and in your heart. Not giving up when life feels hard or sad.
Biggest life lesson you’ve learned lately?
Pretty much all of The Four Agreements have been my biggest lessons: be impeccable with your word, don’t take anything personally, don’t make assumptions, and always do your best.
I was doing the exact opposite of these for so long and it caused some serious, needless misery. I’ve been trying to be more positive in word and thought for years now, and somehow reading this book recently made me even more aware of the words I choose. As a lifelong carer of what others think, assumer, and half-asser, the rest of the book’s lessons really spoke to me as well.
What’s your definition of success?
Enjoying yourself more than not enjoying yourself. Smiling and laughing more than not smiling and laughing. Personally, my ultimate success would be to get paid so much for my writing that I don’t need a day job anymore, and I can travel the world as much as I want. But since I don’t want to insinuate that I’m not successful until and unless I achieve that, I’d say that my day-to-day definition of success is being excited to get out of bed in the morning, doing the things that make me happy, and living according to my values. It also means feeling the fear and doing it anyway and being able to ride life’s natural ups and downs. To me, success is truly trusting and believing that everything will work out for the best.
Name 3 things from your Life List that light you up.
#1. Writing and living part-time in Paris; it’s only cliché if you give a fuck what other people think.
#2. Renting a house in Maine for several months so I can write and pretend I’m Jessica Fletcher (minus the murder, of course)
#3. Going on a Disney cruise
What do you do when life gets messy?
Cry. I’m a big crier. But I always feel much, much better afterwards. Sometimes naps also help. Spending time by the water is a God-send. And of course, kitty cuddles FTW!
3 songs, 3 books, 3 Instagram accounts?
Right now, I’m into…
“Want to Want Me” by Jason Derulo (because SUMMER CAMP!!)
“What Does the Hawk Say” by Bob Rivers Twisted Tunes (because SEAHAWKS!!)
“Minnie the Moocher” by Cab Calloway (because 1930s!!)
Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert
The Shadow of the Wind by Carlos Ruiz Zafón
Flappers and Philosophers by F. Scott Fitzgerald
I seriously only joined Instagram to follow the Seahawks. Ha! So…
Seattle Seahawks (@seahawks)
Jimmy Graham, Seahawks tight end (@thejimmygraham)
Steven Hauschka, Seahawks kicker (@stevenhauschka4)
What do you love about yourself?
I love that even though I still care a little too much what others think, I’m not afraid to be me.
I’m not afraid to get “fixed” when so many women I know are having kids. I’m not afraid to be 38 and wear sparkly cat ears. I’m not afraid to take vacations by myself.
I’m unique as fuck and I love that.
What’s the best piece of advice you’ve been given?
Molly truly gave me my best life advice when she advised me to write a novel back in 2012. And I did it!
Also, at Camp, we learned that “It’s all okay!” Whatever it is, whatever you’re going through, it’s all okay. You’ll get through this. Life goes on. It’s all okay.
She gives some great advice, that Molly.
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